I think you're mother and girlfriend need to stop putting you in the middle, you can love both.

If my husband demanded that I tell him if I made a call or whatever ???? I'm sorry I would snap.

Yes you should defend your girlfriend, you can tell Mommy to back off.

Girlfriend and Mommy are in a battle to see whose going to "win" it's stupid.

If it were me I would tell them both that everyone is too old for this nonsense.

If you mom calls you're girlfriend tell her to just ignore it. I know hard at times.

You have a girlfriend relationship and then you have your relationship with your mom.

Usually once you stop playing the games people quit the ********t.

Maybe couples counseling would get you and your girlfriend learn how to deflect Mommys influence in your relationship.

Welcome to PC I hope you can find some peace.