At the moment the sexual relationship is healthy, and within the realms of 'normal' . As advised by his key worker. I am have no interest in pushing his buttons, or undoing the work he has done.
This thread has helped me see just how heavily biased things are against him as it is, He doesn't need the one person who should be providing support to be leaning on him from the inside.
@sophiesmom, sorry I thought I had answered your query futher back. It's not that I am not concerned about my welfare. It just wasn't the reason I started this thread. I didn't want to draw attention from my main question. I appreciate your concern, and Thankyou for asking. I wasn't trying to be evasive, I just wanted to focus on my current concern.

@divine1996, yes my psych, Says he has no concerns and we have discussed this at length.
That I have taken all the steps I can to ensure we are both safe.
Low standards, that's an interesting comment. I have had a few long term relationships, and many flings when I was still in my teens. I would never have consider any of them to be of low standard. I am not sure what that means.
My previous partners, have all worked , had their own homes, cars, holidays and disposable income.
One didn't work out cos we were to young.
One because we wanted diffrent things.
The last one, we went 10 years and four kids later they suddenly didnt want the responsibility. I couldn't have seen it coming, no one did. So I took a longtime out to heal and realised I was happier on my own with the kids so I stopped looking.
As for the kids, my girls are grown, and know the situation, because they still live at home I felt they had the right to decide if they wanted this man in their home or not. They both went off and did their own background research, and have been very supportive. I havnt brought him home or introduced him to my kids, and I won't until the social do their risk assessment.
Again I thank you for time and questions.