I don't think he's sleeping around, he has social anxiety so he doesn't go out and he mentioned to me that he wouldn't mind me working next to him at his job, so I'm sure there's no one else, he does work long hours so he has no time anyway. He says that's why he can't commit but I feel like if he was interested he would have been round more anyway as when he was pursuing me he was much more in contact with me on the phone and visited more regularly. When men are intimate with me they seem to lose interest, it's not like I've ever slept around and am not that experienced for a 41 year old. I have always had issues around sex and I think he can see I'm not enjoying it as much as him. Maybe that puts him off but I've told him about my sexual problems and not to take it personally. Either way I feel wearing a condom isn't that much to ask but I wonder if this is a common problem for men or whether he's just being fussy. Surely protected sex is better than no sex sensation wise?

I certainly don't want to end up with an STD or cancer so even if there were other tips for better sex from a male perspective while wearing a condom it would be helpful. But it does feel to me like it isn't worth it a lot of the time.

Having said all that he is on holiday so he could be up to anything. I hope not but would rather he was honest, if he is sleeping with anyone else he certainly won't be sleeping with me if I know about it.