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Originally Posted by Erebos
Hmm, "what use do I have for them." That right there is a comment that worries me.
Previous posters are correct, validation comes from within, but I wonder if your attempt to communicate and interact are as clumsy as your post was. Sorry, I don't mean that to sound harsh. But when you talk about 'using' another human being I wonder about your boundries and interactions.
justafriend306 had some good suggestions and pointers I might start there. All the best, I hope you find a way to work this out.  |
Yes my interactions are very clumsy, but probably not what you are thinking. I don't have a problem with boundries and I don't give anyone the impression I am "using" them. My work friends I am talking about actually think I am one of the nicest people they know. And that is probably why they feel compelled to include me and be nice to me. The problem is, "nice" and "thoughtful" are not qualities that people actually admire or value. Especially in males. The males who are valued are always the witty, charismatic ones.