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Originally Posted by stolemyheart87
I am old fashioned, and have always been told, to let the guy chase you, let him make the first move, let him call you first, text you first, message you first, open the door for you, pay for the meal, bring you flowers and candy etc. The old school way of dating.
I have stuck by this formula and have had some guys do this type of thing, but lately I noticed I would always have to do the chasing, and always be the one to make the first move, and then always be the one to make that move from then on.
And when I would become the chaser the guy wouldn't be interested. I know in today's society, things aren't old school way, and equal rights, and this and that thing.
But if I have to be the one to always do the chasing isn't that bad?
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There is no formula as each person in this world is individual, personalities do not fit cleanly into groups nor is every combination of people the same. There are trends and traditions but neither of which are really scientific or sound in any way.
Throwing away the idea of any kind of "formula" do what you find natural and comfortable doing, be yourself and forget acting some way that the world may in so many words and articles say you should act.
Keep in mind also that it depends a lot on what type of guy you tend to go after. Some will naturally be the chaser, others are more laid back and will just wait to be pursued, just like some women do. If you want more of a guy coming after you try to find men that would do that, or more accurately if they don't, just move on til you find one that is the way you want.
I honestly though, think you're overthinking this dating thing.