therapy shouldn't always be a walk in the park. How the heck are you supposed to learn anything if everything is easy breezy all the time? Healing can only comes from conflict (IMHO), so if you want to get anywhere in your relationship to your wife, then you got to get down and dirty sometimes!

Money issues are tough, and they suck. Your post reminds me of the fights my husband and I have. He's always so quick to tell me how he makes the most money, and he does more of this, and more of that. The only difference in our storys is that I do not have any debt. I don't do debt. Hopefully you can talk about these issues with your wife and T at your session today. If you are legitamately doing more than her and feel you want her to make more or a contribution then she needs to know this and she needs to acknowledge this for you. If your feelings are unfounded then you need to realize this too.
Either way, it really sucks to be going through hard times with your partner and I hope y'all get something amazing from each other.
Be excellent to each other!