@sophiesmom, that might just be uk sarcasm seeping through. I feel this has helped a lot, I have definately seen I need to shift my focus about what's important here. Whilst we are still learning about each other, we can just continue to discuss it with his workers and attending his meetings, my psych etc . They have all been very supportive. But when you are constantly surrounded by professionals sometimes it helps to hear from those outside the circle.

Apologies if I sounded snippy, it wasn't intentional, I am genuinely interested to take in other perspectives, I think it's important.

@Acorn Oaktree Thankyou for your post, it is often difficult to hear unfavourable things said about someone you care deeply for, and harder still when you can see the truth in it.
A few kind words can go a long way.
Many thanks.