With all due respect, you can't write off the entire dynamics of a family simply because there are problems, nor do I for a second believe that the family dynamics you grew up with were the perfect situation either.

Welcoming people openly into a home is one thing, and no, thanksgiving is not specifically for that, it is a celebration and giving of thanks nothing in what the holiday itself says that one has to openly accept uninvited guests at any time without warning. This is what this is about.

I grant you that you're perfectly in your right to accept drop-ins at the last minute at any time and that's commendable, but not everyone can and will do that but isn't that their right? To judge the masses and call it sad because they dont' live up to a certain standard that you do is simply put, simplistic and actually, ironically... sad.