Wow, judgmental much? What makes your family so perfect?

My family was on a limited budget growing up and there often wasn't enough food to go around. So, yes, if someone wanted to invite someone over for dinner, you had to ask.

As an adult with my own home, I don't like people just dropping by because I have a mental illness and my privacy is very important to me and home is my safe place where I don't have to behave any special way for the world.

Also, I just think it's good manners and polite to ask someone before inviting someone over to the home. Not all people want to be "on" all the time, especially for strangers. If you're an extrovert and okay with that, good for you, but what gives you the right to judge people who aren't like you?

It's not sad that other people value their home and time differently than your mother and aunt did. As sandman said, people have different family dynamics and it in no way makes them better off or worse than you.

Frankly, it's sad to see that you grew up in a family that taught you to be so judgmental of people who aren't like you.

I hope you can learn some compassion at some point.

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