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Originally Posted by skeeball
Bud i stated my opinion and your entitled to yours. I don't agree, it's that simple. There's no need for you try and change that. Have a happy thanksgiving!
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I stated in response to your statement that "the family dynamics are clearly not working"
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With all due respect, you can't write off the entire dynamics of a family simply because there are problems, nor do I for a second believe that the family dynamics you grew up with were the perfect situation either.
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Not entirely opinion. I am not stating my opinion, it's really a fact that by just a few factors one cannot judge an entire situation or environment or say, a whole dynamic of a family based on one post being related to a complaint. How is this an opinion?
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Welcoming people openly into a home is one thing, and no, thanksgiving is not specifically for that, it is a celebration and giving of thanks nothing in what the holiday itself says that one has to openly accept uninvited guests at any time without warning. This is what this is about.
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This is making clear reasons for why some people do things the way they do and feel the way they do about this subject, in no way does it point out one opinion or another but is giving reasons. If you can't see it that way I'm sorry.
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I grant you that you're perfectly in your right to accept drop-ins at the last minute at any time and that's commendable, but not everyone can and will do that but isn't that their right? To judge the masses and call it sad because they dont' live up to a certain standard that you do is simply put, simplistic and actually, ironically... sad.
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Again, not in any case have I stated that your family dynamic is sad or bad or wrong, but stated that every family is different. What I did say is sad is your simplistic thinking and quick move to judge others because they are different than you. The difference between you and I is I acknowledge and realize that not everyone thinks or feels or acts the way I do but that doesn't make my way right or better, it's just my way. As I said you have the right to live the way you do, accepting drop-ins, but I just think it's counter-productive to simply judge because my (and others) way is different.
Lastly I am not trying to change your opinion at all. One can feel differently about a subject without having to make others believe their thinking, but people can, on the other hand understand why others think the way they do and believe or behave like they do. Judging others based on how they do things differently cuts off all ability to understand others and actually have a discussion.