Is it appropriate? I find it helpful if used correctly but it can be so easy for a t to get it wrong and cause a rupture. My t has laughed in session before and it didn't bother me as much but last week it really bothered me.
I use humour as a defence so I make light of things and try to be funny. After three years my t should recognise what is happening when I do this. Recently I told her how difficult it is to discuss my mother. This week I was telling t all the crazy things my mother had said and done during the week. They are actually really funny and in fairness I tried to make t laugh but she couldn't stop laughing. She did apologise and said she wasn't laughing at me but then she started laughing again. I hid my hurt by laughing too but it really touched into something deeper, how my mother would laugh and ridicule me. T knows my mom did this a lot and still carried on laughing. At one stage she had to leave the room. I know a lot of you don't like my t and sometimes I don't like her and we have been getting on really well. I know that this is more about me than her, I felt shamed and ridiculed. She sdid apologise again after session and I know that it wasn't malicious or intentional but I am left feeling hurt.