Darke,

I'm sorry to hear about the problems you are having. In a perfect world you wife would be able to tell you she's feeling unattractive or neglected, or just bored.

Maybe she sees these internet dates as harmless entertainment (I am assuming that she has never met these people in real life.) I had a co-worker that viewed it this way. It did not make any sense to me, he was newly married, why would he be looking online for distractions when he's just gotten married. To him it was no different than a fantasy.

I would agree that you need to talk to your wife about this. I wish you the best.