Yes my interactions are very clumsy, but probably not what you are thinking. I don't have a problem with boundries and I don't give anyone the impression I am "using" them. My work friends I am talking about actually think I am one of the nicest people they know. And that is probably why they feel compelled to include me and be nice to me. The problem is, "nice" and "thoughtful" are not qualities that people actually admire or value. Especially in males. The males who are valued are always the witty, charismatic ones.