That is a big step when you first tell someone. It is OK to do it by email. The first person I told that my marriage was on the rocks was my sister, by email, over 2 years ago. Then a couple of months later my mother, by phone. Then a couple of months later my other sister, by email. It's really hard. Once the ice is broken with the knowledge, it is easier to talk about it in person. My husband and I just separated one week ago. Very hard. After 20 years of marriage. But it's been a long time coming. I often feel too upset about it to post here. I like to read other people's posts though, and hear what they are going through. I wish you much strength, Rhapsody, and joy in the future.