"An ex is an ex for a reason." I'm sure you've heard that a LOT. And it's so true. Sure, maybe you guys can be friends (and it sounds like you are headed that way) but not be married or in a relationship.

Divorce is an exhausting experience, mentally and physically. I know first hand, as I've been divorced three times. The fourth marriage was the charm. I am finally happy. It took me almost 50 years to find the right man! I would not even not even consider getting back with him if I were you. It would be very hard on the kids, and it would never work in the long run anyway. Things would not change and you'd ultimately end up getting divorced anyway. Getting divorced is not something to be ashamed of. It's the people who stay together and are miserable that are the foolish ones. They spend the rest of their lives in misery. The right man for you IS out there!