My mother made it clear that I was to either go with my father for Thanksgiving or go with her... I do not want to be around my blood family at all...

I kind of twisted the truth a little without outright lying to my mother. My dad's family is not all getting together, due to my cousin having major surgery recently. He is going to just take my grandmother to a restuarant... I told mom that, and that I was not going with her. I omitted the part of I am not going with him either.

Instead, I am going to the T-day potluck at my recovery clubhouse. I want to be around my chosen family, this Thanksgiving.