I can relate to how you are feeling salukigirl. It matters not that your dad is a functional alcoholic and smokes pot everyday. You know how dysfunctional he really is and it bothers you at some level.

It creates a fear in us and we hope that those we love don't end up in the same position. Not to mention the fact that smoking pot is illegal and if caught with it will be arrested. I'm not judging....believe me. Just stating facts.

I think as we age, we look at things differently. Maybe you are getting to the point where you are looking at things differently too.

Not sure how to get over the feelings though. Wish I could be more help.

Take good care!

Hugsss
sabby