I think there's a lot to that, friend; last night I talked to a Non Violent Communicator, and had a very physical, psycho-somatic reaction, when she replied, because I felt rejected, by her answer.

Here's what I expect others to say, on my behalf:

I am very afraid that you will try to pressure me into violating my conscience. I've been pressured by others before, and don't like it. I believe holding my mother to her duty was my duty, plus prerogative. I expect you to, at a minimum, help me convince my mother she is wrong, her logic, wrong.

To me, "forgive" is a code word to legitimize my mother's errors. I don't mind forgiving her, but that doesn't mean she was right to resist my authority; I fully expect you to make that clear, as clear as I have.

I want to trust her, and if not that, then at least you; she stabbed me in the back, but I wouldn't care if I didn't wish to communicate, and I do. I fear getting backstabbed, in confronting her, like she once stabbed me and I'm placing myself in a vulnerable position to feel trust and conficance, in you; call me stupid, but I think that's brave.

If I set boundaries, would you validate them? That's what I expect you to help me, with.