oh LMo,

wow, you are sure dealing with a lot and sounding very sane and logical despite the emotions you have to be experiencing. don't think i could do what you are doing. i believe God will protet and provide. but still, God helps those who help themselves. it sounds that even though there are many complicated complex and at times opposing issues to sort thru that you have kept a level head through it all.

i never cared to think on financial issues during a time like this, no training, no desire so i can't help. is there a lawyer to represent your concerns?

above all, i feel that your baby could sense your stress, so i hope you are doing things to keep yourself calm and composed (just like it sounds you are doing).

but understanding all that must be going through your mind, maybe a good scream session outdoors in a isolated place would help relieve the built up pressures. i don't know.

i know i'm not alone wishing you the best.

if it helps organize, relax, then keep posting and keep us updated and please let us know what we can do to help.

don't forget to take care of #1. take some time out. maybe allow others to deal the way they know best as much as there's no harm done. i am very sorry to hear about your dad. it's very clear he is not himself these days.

lots of prayers...