hey, i have social anxiety for very long time and am lonely since i live alone in the city where i study. the only thing that gives me some comfort in a sense is self development. i am trying to overcome my shyness atm by getting rid of my identity. i read the thread "The title of my life" from "Lonely Warrior" where he basically says he does not love himself. i don't have a self hate so i tried to understand it, he must have reasons to hate himself but all those reasons are based on his identity. when he gets rid of his identity he gets rid of the reasons he hates himself. i just wondered if this also works with other thinks like shyness. did anybody here thought about "identity"? would be nice to hear some experience