Hello HumanelyFlawed: I believe this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I'm sorry. I cannot speak from experience with regard to your concerns. However, my impression is that what you have experienced is pretty-much the standard domestic abuse pattern. I don't know as there is any way to tell if it will escalate. However, I would be inclined to say it's not going to get any better unless your bf gets the help he needs with resolving his anger management issues.

So my thinking, for what it's worth, is that unless your bf takes some sort of concrete action, such as arranging to see a mental health therapist, then you may want to think seriously about whether or not this is a relationship you want to continue to pursue. (Oh... & by the way... I don't believe this has anything to do with your bf's age. There are plenty of men much older than your bf who have similar problems. That said, I think it unlikely he will "grow out of it.")

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. There are many knowledgeable & caring members here. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!