Hello anagold: I'm sorry I do not think there is much of anything I can offer you here in the way of advice. Based on what you wrote, I would have to say it sounds to me as though you've made a very wise decision & now you simply need to stick with it. I don't know what is going on with this "friend" of yours. She certainly seems to have her problems. Perhaps she needs some mental health services. But it's not your responsibility to bail her out. Your first priority must be yourself & your "dream partner". So I would say... good for you for recognizing a potential problem in the making & taking action to thwart it.

Anyway, I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. There are many knowledgeable & caring members here. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!