One more thing is that Rob started going to the swimming pool with me. Swimming occupies his mind - you need to think about how to coordinate your body in order to swim - so he is not bored, unlike with walking. He cannot last long, though, because of a lack of endurance. When he cannot swim anymore, he walks in the walking lane - I have read that walking against the resistance of the water is good exercise. He gets about 20-30 mins of exercise a week this way, on Saturdays. Before I invited him to swim, he did not exercise at all. I also invited him to do relaxing yoga with me on more than one occasion, but he does not go - at the same time he constantly complains of mindlessly browsing the Internet, so it is not that he does not have time to go.

We go swimming together on Saturday afternoons. I also go swimming during the week, but he does not. I swim breaststroke for an hour non-stop. We do not talk much in the pool because I am busy swimming. But it is a positive change in his life that he at least is doing that.

The pool is open early in the morning on Saturdays, and I doubt that he would be motivated to come that early, so part of me hopes that I can tell him that I am switching to mornings in order to free up my Saturdays for hiking and that he would continue going in the afternoon. The thing is, he will still be hurt. I do not think hurting him is avoidable. There is something childish about him and about his lack of social finesse. I feel like I am about to hurt a child.