I have always been socially awkward and while I have never been diagnosed officially, I think it is very likely I am on the spectrum. If I am, does it mean I am doomed to forever being somewhat socially awkward and that there is no point in trying to be more charismatic and pleasant? Are people with Aspergers just not wired to be charismatic and pleasant in social situations?

Unfortunately for me, I am not one of those Aspeies with that stereotypical "Aspie brain" which allows you to excel at science and computers and things of the sort. I am actually quite slow mentally and fall behind in those areas. So I feel like I have nothing to make up for my social awkwardness.