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Originally Posted by Shadix
I'll take that as a "no".
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Originally Posted by Shadix
The analogy does not fit, because you do not need to be that wealthy supermodel in order to be valued and respected by people. Social skills pretty much ARE required in order for a guy to be valued and respected. In fact most people seem to look at socially awkward males with CONTEMPT. This is evidenced by the fact that people often use labels like "autistic" and "socially inept" to disparage their adversaries. So it is really not the same thing at all.
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Some people will do this....lots of them will use social awkwardness as a put down. These are not nice people and hopefully evolution will weed out these types of people if we choose to live a more enlightened path. The people who you meet that will not be the kind about who are, are often wooed by superficial charm. Then there will be the kinds of people who really get you. When you meet the right kind of people, all these other seemingly charismatic people will lose their shine and you will actually be grateful when they don't like you because you've seen their true colors and won't want to participate in the popularity game of life.
Not everyone in this world is going to like one another. Lots of people, several on this board even don't like me and go out of their way to make it known. In times past this would have bothered me and I would have probably tried to see if we could move beyond it. Now I've gotten good at recognizing when I don't like someone and usually the people who don't like me were on my "iffy" radar for awhile before I noticed their behaviors. But guess what, some people do really like me. And they are the most amazing people I could possibly dream of meeting. Genuinely GOOD people so I'm fortunate for the people who make it known they don't like me. It allows me too see how truly lucky I am for the wonderful people who do. Focus on the people who are kind to you, not the jerks.
My brother is 6 years older. He was always sporty, popular, invited to all the parties, every guy wanted to be like him and every girl wanted to be with him. I was a straight A nerd with buck teeth who thought my brother was the coolest guy in the planet while he beat and abused me to return the favor. All that popularity left him with STD's and a wife he hates so it didn't work out too well in the end. The tides can turn and the mighty do fall and land on their heads sometimes.
When you meet "your people". The ones who respect you and treat you as an equal, you will be grateful and stop caring about the jerks who tried to push you down.