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Originally Posted by Shadix
Here's a question. Can any of you honestly tell me that my lack of social skills doesn't really matter? That there is a good chance YOU would personally find a socially awkward, "slow" person like me as enjoyable to be around as someone charismatic and witty like my brother? That I can get the same joy and pleasure out of life as someone who (I am stealing this description from another post which describes it perfectly) "knows intuitively what to say, how to smile, etc., to fit in in a social situation and attract positive attention" while I continue to be my socially awkward, quite possibly autistic self? Tell me.
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Of course your social skills matter. Earlier I tried to outline the sorts of things you've displayed on the forum that contributes to your lack of social skills here. You dismissed them pretty much.
And yes, I have preferred socially awkward people over "charismatic witty" people plenty of times. Including men. It isn't the social skills that win me over in my friendships. It's how genuine someone is. It's what we have in common for interests.
And please stop using autism as an insult and as a self-label. Please go see a psychiatrist if you believe you may be on the spectrum. But don't label yourself, especially when you are using the label in an insulting manner.
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