i give my t "stuff" throughout the year-- poetry, music, letters-- although they are not gifts, they are parts of me and i consider them very intimate and special.

because of this i don't feel like i could single out a particular gift for a certain holiday. plus i would get way too stressed out. for example, my 1st thought would be to get him a book, but since he's very well-read i'd probably end up getting him a book he already has. and he doesn't have his own office in the place we have therapy so it's not like i could see what types of things he keeps in there and then get him something to put on a shelf. too stressful.

i hope that you can settle on the pefect gift for your t. just to clarify, i don't think there's anything wrong with getting a holiday gift for a t-- i think it can be quite nice. i just didn't want it to seem as though i was shooting down your idea.