Dragon, I only wish my husband would come to half the realizations you have come to!

Have you followed up your words with actions? Words are wonderful, but they're only proven to be true with the action that follows them. That is the proof of the pudding.

If you are still on friendly terms with your wife, court her again and prove to you and to her that you have seen the error of your ways.

When you talk, validate her feelings. SHOW her you understand what she said, not with words only but with actions. But don't push yourself on her. Give her her space, time to think over what was said and done while in your presence.

But like Tymber said, do it for YOU. Let your changes become YOU. Otherwise your wife will know that it's a fake front you're putting up. Women need honesty, sincerety and to know that it comes straight from your heart. Your behavior needs to reflect your true feelings for her.

I wish you the best!