last year i made my T a gift. Took me a long while. This year I am buying something. I'd feel so bad not giving her a gift. But also the holiday gives me a good excuse to buy her a gift and say i care. the only thing that makes me feel bad is that i used to give gifts to my mom when i was a kid b/c i thought/knew she was mad at me. I thought the gifts would make her love me again. Sometimes I wonder if I am doing this to get love from my T. Its hard to sort though the "why" that I do it.