Lately, it's like everything I do or say annoys, upsets or disappoints my husband. . I feel like who I am as a human being is constantly under attack. For reference, nothing about me has changed. I'm the exact same girl I was when started dating.

Anyway, his treatment towards me has gotten so bad I don't even want to be around him and I'm avoiding it at all costs in case I say or do something that will "cause" him to say or do something which leaves me feeling like ****.

I admit, I set high standards for myself and my future that isn't always easy to deal with. If it were easy, everyone would do it, you know? He's always known this and has (in theory) agreed with me and said he's on the same page concerning finances, health, child rearing, etc. I have my moral code that I live by and honestly, I'm happy with it. I like who I am. I guess I'd rather be high maintenance with high standards than someone who doesn't.

The most recent situation involved his sister and her husband. They have 1 child and 1 vehicle. They both work full-time. We do not live in a transit friendly city. (It's very unreliable and only operates on half days.) Anyway, his sister bums rides to work. Or takes the bus. Whatever. How she chooses to get to work is her business. I, personally, as an adult woman with children could not with any sense of self respect mooch rides. Or take the bus. Unless I absolutely HAD to. I'd feel it was my duty to own transportation. If I couldn't afford a second vehicle, I'd find a way to make it happen. Maybe I'd cut cable or something. Whatever. To me, having transportation is what adults do. If it doesn't to her, that's fine. Anyway, her husband decided to get a motorcycle. When I was told this I asked my husband (hypothetically) if he'd be OK with having me sit on a bus while he had a car and a motorcycle. He said of course not. However, he was disgusted with my disgust concerning the situation. It's like he agrees with the premise of the situation, but I'm some high maintenance woman for not wanting to take a bus so he can have a motorcycle? I was shocked he felt that way about me for having the expectation we both have cars.

Ug. I don't feel like I articulated myself well. Hopefully i can add on to people's comments becausee I truly don't know what to do!