There are those that would judge you for thinking you need two cars in a single family. There are those that would judge those that don't use mass transit and say that for any number of reasons why that was wrong. It's all a matter of perspective and what you find valuable, and important in your life. Just the same as I should not judge your choices in choosing to own two vehicles, I don't think one should gauge whether someone has self respect or not based on this, well really among many other things.

To be honest, perhaps your husband is annoyed by your criticism of others and their lives. It seems to come off to me as if you observe and analyze other people by your own value system and do not consider the fact that what we choose in our life as important is not the only way to live or be. I wonder if this is the case with your husband. You state high maintenance, and point out your high morals and such but that does not mean you should expect that everyone live by your standards. I don't know what he's thinking related to this but I know that's what it seems like his reaction is attributed to.