I see this as leading to a point that may be destructive on the husbands part. After all discussion is something many people value and not just women. Many men have a real problem keeping the relationship fresh in the face of passing time. Men simply have to work much harder to keep a good woman in their lives. This might be why I have been alone for over 11 years now.

I have seen this in relationships with people I have known. The common tie here is the simple reaction by the hubby and of course needing more examples is needed to properly discuss this. The comparing of others to your own life is a slippery slope. That said, you do not seem to be living a life of doing this "comparing then commenting" but in fact simply stated an unfair example of living as observed in this woman's marriage.

My 2 cents says: He is not letting her drive then he deserves to be left in the dust and if he is one of the brute men who try to act tough by being quiet and aloof then your decision may already be made. I watched a woman support my unemployed brother for 2 years and she paid for everything! This is in the USA where his unemployment money stopped at 6 months and was only enough to buy food and pay electricity and cable each month. She covered the mortgage on the house he wanted, the credit card bills, the booze, pot he smoked heavily each day and THEN... 4 new guns totaling over 3 grand! a new motorcycle, computer, 3 synthesizers and various clothes, movies, BluRay player. When she finally gave up and dumped him she literally moved in with friends, left my brother all the material possessions and NEVER went to court (which she could have and demanded compensation).

I have thought about the events, the money and the mindset of each of them during that time. Well he looked like Johnny Dep from the 1990's and she was a hottie who loved to work hard but go out all weekend and partying but during the week she was strictly business and I guess she was paying for her arm candy? But a fine example of dysfunction and attachment that many really need to overcome themselves to avoid serious mental anguish when a relationship shows warning signs, uncomfortable moments that increase as time goes on and overlooking the work one contributes vs the other partner.