Another example, my SIL asked me to start getting her kid ready and taking him to school in the mornings since she starts earlier and would have to get a babysitter. I said OK. After a few days of dealing with a kid who did not listen, would not eat breakfast and would not prepare for school related things (he wanted to play on the PS3 ALL morning) I told her I can't take care of him in the mornings unless she's going to help me enforce that he not be on his PS3. She wasn't willing to do this. This kid was being threatened of being left back so I thought it important he go over spelling words, maths, etc. I just couldn't spend my time in the morning (I work, too and was doing this for free) with a kid who wouldn't work on his studies when he was already falling behind. It just felt so wrong. When I told my husband this he tells me I shouldn't co parent. I'm not co parenting, but if you want me to devote my time it has to be under a circumstance that I agree with and I Just didn't agree with that morning routine.