I am stepmother to a 34 y/o female who has 4 sons, ages 14 to 9. Yes, 4 boys in 5 years. My main thing is there always seems to be a crisis surrounding her. She has had Treatment twice d/t a major breakdown following a buried memory of abuse. She lost her boys for 3 years and got them back May, 2014. Her mobile home burned Sept.2014. She STAYS physically sick from a variety of things. ( I think she has Munchausen's, but I've only been a Psych nurse for 20 years, what do I know?).
She is eternally broke. Intelligent, but working at a big box store when she could go back for 1 semester and have her degree.

She is to be married Friday night and today (Tuesday) has sent out a text that says " I am in need of help getting food for the wedding". What?! you ask. But, this is typical. Crisis upon crisis upon crisis. I sent her a msg that said I am doing as much as I can financially getting the cake. She does not know how many people will be there or anything common sensical. (I know that's not a word, but it applies).

She was 21 when her father and I married and it has been like this from day 1. I don't know what to do. I am sure her father will rescue the day as always, but that doesn't help in the long term. We have Tried and I mean really tried to get this young lady to stand on her own, but nothing seems to stick.
I guess I just needed to get this out. I just want to be done with all of this. The last time she posted "They say I may need to go back to the (mental) hospital" sent me into literal hysterical crying. The next day she was happy and laughing, "haven't felt this good in years". She has PTSD, is most likely bi-polar and the only med she takes with any regularity is 0.5 Klonopin when she feels like she needs to calm down. Yes, she needs to be seen by a mental health professional, but will only go to a GP/NP.