ruh roh, your post was incredibly insightful. It sounds spot on with what seems to me to be going on. (which is just my opinion and not an assertion of what is true for the OP)

It seems to me that she's not the one wanting to talk about the relationship. SoConfused623 it seems like you want more of a relationship but she has boundaries that preclude the kind of relationship you are looking for for support.

Can you give us more of the story that explains what you mean about her continually wanting to talk about your relationship?