I think if this woman demands you give her rides to work then of course it effects you. But if not then I don't see how it effects you in any shape or form.

You also have to understand that other people might have high standards too, just different than yours. They might judge you just the same as you judge them.

You think not having a car is s big thing. And somehow it indicates high standards (I don't see how but ok)

What if so and so says that they think any responsible able bodied adult should have graduate degree by a certain age and since you don't have it you are kind of low class compare to them etc etc Other people can judge you just the same you judge them.

If you don't want to babysit in the morning, then don't. I don't know what kind of studies you think that kid needs, but I would stay out of it. I personally wouldn't babysit before work.

You are newlyweds. Shouldn't it be a blissful happy time? You had tons of complains before marrying him, it's typically not getting better after marriage if things are bad during engagement . If you already don't want to be around him, then it's not going to get better. Is there more to all this?

Ps and I see this story with your nephew happened last year. Why does it still upset you?