Thanks guys, good points. It is unlikely anything will happen between un anyway but we could just talk for hours we have so much in common. It is an intellectual attraction, and he is cute although a few years older than me. I will be hunting him down today to talk some more and see where it leads. Maybe he doesn't want a relationship at all at this point in his life, and in a way I am not quite ready which is why the strength of my attraction took me by surprise. He is not my usual physical type but i don't care. Oh well this project should keep me amused. As we both have PTSD we already understand so much about each other too without having to talk about it. 99% of our conversation has been on ancient british cultures like gaelic, celtic and druids and music. He is Welsh and my ancestors are English. So similar but also very different.