Thank you so much for responding, everyone. Your feedback has honestly been very helpful. I don't walk away from this thread feeling like an absolute monster of a wife, but I feel like I need to tweak myself...

I AM a judgmental and critical person. I always have been and I always will be. I don't like to keep company with people who don't have the same morals or approach to things as I do. Whether it be child rearing, healthy eating, finances, etc., I just don't see the point. It feels like a waste of energy to me. Too many problems and conflicts arise when you're not on the same page for day-to-day activities. As an adult, free time is so limited.

That being said, I think it would be a good idea for me to tone myself down. I don't want to change completely because I really do like who I am. I like that I don't just chum along with everyone.

When it comes to his family, I think I'll just STFU. He knows how I feel and there's no point in me constantly voicing my opinion when a new situation presents itself in disguise of an old issue. It is very difficult for someone like me to bite my tongue! I also get paranoid he's going to turn into them (not just his family, but the type of people I judge, criticize, etc.) and bring me down with him. My biggest fear as a wife is getting fat, having no hobbies and just rotting away on my couch with him by my side while our neglected children play PS3. We'llbe too tired from work to keep a clean house or cook nutritious meals so it'll be a life of Netflix and chill. Now, that's cool if that's how YOU want to live, but I can't go out like that... I Just can't. So I see people who do live like that as scary and very threatening.

When it comes to other people, I think I'll just tone done. I won't be quiet completely. I have my opinions and i'm entitled to them.