You certainly don't need to become fat or have no hobbies and just rot on a coach. I am 50 and I am neither (neither is my husband!). But you can only accomplish it by being in control of your own life. Not the life of others. And you can accomplish it by finding a partner who is on the same page as you.

Unless these tv watching laying on the couch lazy unaccomplished people move inside my house against ny will and tie me up lol I don't care what they do. I have high standards and a certain life style that will continue living regardless how others live theirs. My husband came from a very dysfunctional family of underachievers, but he isn't this way (he is the only one in the entire extended family with college degrees and professional career etc). I wouldn't marry him if he was just like them. It wasn't who I am or how I was raised.

I think it all boils to choices. Nobody can make you live certain way or do certain things. It's all up to you