allautumn,

What was it about this man that makes him so prevalent in your thoughts? I mean I'm guessing it was a bad situation, given that you posted about this in the PTSD forum. Was he abusive to you?

I'm with Kimmydawn on this one, I really think you should get a good therapist and talk out all of these things. When you can deal with the memories and the feelings that are invoked by memories and flashbacks, all emotional/psychological material related to him should lose some of it's charge, and grasp on you.

Good luck to you. You can work through this, and enjoy relationships again.

Angela