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Old Nov 23, 2016, 04:01 PM
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Originally Posted by starrysky View Post
I want to end a friendship, but I don't know how. Background: we dated for 2 years (2009-2011), then became friends in 2012. It was confusing at first, but it worked because we were both single and weren't attracted to each other (yeah) but loved each other dearly. We were like companions. He got a girlfriend last spring, and our relationship changed. It had to. But it hurt me. And while he is still my friend, he never calls me anymore. But i am still attached to him I think, because sometimes I still call him when I'm not doing well, and need support. He actually nudged me to email my ex. :-O And then when i read him the response I got, he didn't think it was mean, just honest. I feel like....my friend is not good for me for the most part. Yes, he has his good points. But I feel like I am annoying and a burden more than anything toward him and his gf, who doesn't like me. I'm not even around that much anymore. But I think maybe this is a toxic friendship. Sometimes I feel more hurt than better when I interact with him, but I feel like, it's hard to stop because I'm soooo used to it and comfortable. But I want to respect myself!!!
I am surprised he took that view on the response from your ex, but it's his opinion and sometimes people we care about do disappoint us. The thing I always think is there are so many times we can let disappointments like that go and move on before the negatives outweigh the positive, only you can know if you've passed the tipping point.

If I were you I'd give it a bit time and space if you can, you've had a bumpy time recently and maybe not best time to make a final decision, but whatever you choose I wish you peace with it.