I wonder how much your therapist is reacting to not knowing you as much as anything. I know 11 years ago my therapist would advocate for me to be IP much, much more readily than he does now after he has pretty well learned my breaking point. Back then we had a number of times when he wanted me IP and my pdoc was letting me stay home with various boundaries because my pdoc had known me for years and had a pretty good idea of my limits. Now they usually agree but I've seen my therapist 11 years and my pdoc 13 so they both know my patterns well.