I would not expect him to stop being social or even stop being himself. I am talking mainly about the way he acts with girls. I have read "pick up artist" guides, which basically give advice on how to behave in order to be desirable to women. The way he acts is makes me wonder if he has been reading that stuff. Seriously it is like he is trying to seduce every girl he meets. Would it really be too much to ask that he doesn't do that every time we are together? He should let at least some girls like somebody other than him. I don't see this request as being unfair. It is like antitrust laws which prevent monopolies.

Of course this is all technically hypothetical. We actually do not hang out in the same social groups for the most part. But over the past year I paid attention to his behavior when we have and I realized he is not just like any other more talkative outgoing person, he has something special. I am hoping I can just match up to him without him toning it down or anything. I am hoping that his social charisma doesn't actually matter as much as I have been led to believe. As a male charisma doesn't actually have that big of an effect on a female's attractiveness.I much prefer a girl who is my type physically and is nice(not cold, not feisty, etc.). But it seems to be different for females.