Can you say "I have anorexia but I don't want to talk about it."? Just because you tell doesn't mean it stops. It means your willing to let him in a little more. My T and I worked around talking about it. Some times she'd ask how eating was going but would drop it after I answered: good,fair, poor. She even helped me out of a program that was being more harmful then good without disclosing why. Just because you tell doesn't mean you loose control. It means you have even more control and a secret person in your corner for the times that your ED gets controlling.