Not every girl cares about charisma and not every guy doesn't. Most people on both sides are attracted to people with Charisma which is why some actors get paid the big bucks. There was a director of human services at my old job. Good looking....very preppy and IV league looking. What most people would consider to be charming and charismatic. Most of the women would fawn over him and he would chat about Big Brother and other reality TV shows the girls were watching. I didn't find him charming.....he seemed like a weezle to me and I didn't trust him as far as I could toss a semi truck. What is charisma to some is sleezy to others. Some people like cute, shy humble guys with self-esteem and brother issues. Your ship will come in and you will be happy because it will be the right type of girl for YOU and you will be the right type for her.