I am sorry for being blunt, but you come across extremely shallow. I'd say even high school boys look at things beyond looks and girl being agreeable. This is middle school stuff.

I wonder if the issue is shallowness not your lack of charisma. You don't seem to value any human qualities besides looks and agreeableness in women and wit and charisma in men. There is more to life. Print your threads on here and make a therapy appointment please.