I tend to internalize things to bury and find it difficult to go through the difficult effort of rehashing the event and the feelings associated with it....once was enough.

It's just our M.O. If and when we do bring things up to talk about, the guys get all offendedly disgusted and feel like we are being too whiney to not just "deal with it" and move on...."always got to talk about it" they say (feelings of demasculinization) ....so we are more inflicted by internal abuse more then outer.