I agree with you. Well she has always been like this even when she did attend the college I graduated from. Just not as extreme. But when I did talk to her, I told her that I think it is rude for her to bail out on me at the last minute and not tell me ahead of time. Also, when she attended the college, she would exclude me in group situations. I called her out on it. She would kind of force an apology but never changed.

She really didn't care. If anything, that caused her to do it more. She actually distanced herself even more when I called her out on her behavior. Then the end of the year came and she started treated everyone like crap. Talking bad about everyone behind their backs. She dropped out and wanted nothing to do with anyone from the college. I am the only person from that college she still talks to.

I do agree with you that she is probably doing it out of obligation, politeness, or even boredom. I just don't get why she has to do it. And if she does genuinely care, then why does she have to act like she doesn't? I do agree with you and yes it is very annoying. I almost considered ignoring any texts I receive from her and cut her off completely but at the same time, I hate cutting people off if they truly like me.

But given the way she has treated me the past three years, most likely she doesn't really care for me. She has called me her best friend before but I know for a fact that is a lie. She also has problems telling the truth. She will not tell someone if she is mad at them. Instead, she will back stab them constantly until she feels better. She told me a few times that she has an image to maintain, which sounds really fake to me.