Shadix, I'm sorry but whomever taught you what you know abobuut girls really messed you up. First of all, it is not easier for girls in dating. It is just as hard for us to find someone who is attracted to us, FOR ANY REASON, as it is for a guy.

Why would being attracted to someone for their personality be shallow? We don't call that shallow because that's not what shallow is. Shallow is about being superficial, such as liking someone only for their looks. If you like someone be caused they are fun to be around and have a great sense of humor, that is by definition not shallow.

You know that you need to work on your social skills, as you have said a past therapist would treat you for this. Your lack of social skills is very present in the way you respond to these posts. If you want to have more luck with the ladies, I suggest you work with a therapist on your social skills and on defining your self worth as well as building your self esteem. No one wants to be with someone who needs to constantly have their vanity satiated, as you currently seem to need. You need to learn how to self validate, then these problems that you have, especially with your brother, will lessen.

The problem is not your brother, it's you.

Good luck,
Seesaw