Dear aloneinmusic.

Our family and particularly our parents are meant to be supportive and encourage us in our endeavours. When our family environment causes us anxiety, fear or dread it is no longer a healthy place to be. As you are only 20 years old, your family environment is all you have known thus far...however the world is a very big place. Finding a life outside of your family unit will undoubtedly help you to form trusting loving friendships with good people, and enable you to work toward building a strong support network where your feelings and choices are valued and you can create a life for yourself.

Family or not, if someone has abused hurt or minimised you...then you get to choose where they belong in your life...and whether there is a place for them at all. Seeking some counselling would most surely help you to put memories and feelings into their proper place, and assist you in feeling confident & comfortable in your choices.

Ultimately it is ‘you’ who gets to choose which steps to take to feel safe and valued in both body & mind.

Be kind to yourself aloneinmusic